Emotions: ” Natural yet Dangerous!”

You, I, we all have emotions. Emotions make us humans! “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotions,” said Dale Carnegie in his book- ‘How to win Friends and Influence People’. We care for each other, we love, we hate, we are happy, and sometimes we are sad. Emotions are the most basic trait of humanity. Emotions make us who we are.

It is said that what you feel and go through in your childhood defines mostly all of your life. A new study by Jean Lotus shows a correlation between a difficult childhood and adult health problems, a lack of productivity, and criminal involvement. There are some traumatizing emotions like anger, anxiety, helplessness which affects us deeply. Most children who have a hard childhood are filled with these emotions and they have no medium to express these emotions, so they finally tend to do so through criminal activities. Most children, who do not pursue the path of crime, still are scared for the rest of their lives, something which affects their productivity, happiness, and at times their health!

Teenage is an age where we go through a lot of new emotions. This is the age when you start getting exposed to the real world, and we all know that this world isn’t as happy and wonderful as it looks like. This is the age when we feel jealous, we feel alone, we feel anxious, we feel confident and many more emotions. We come through many new emotions which confuses us because there are some things which we never felt before. We have mood swings, all we have are questions and no answers! The most frustrating emotion is frustration itself, amidst so much confusion and change we start to feel frustrated, which is natural but dangerous at the same time!

Emotions aren’t dangerous until and unless they do not control us. “Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slaves to your emotions,” said Elizabeth Gilbert in her book- ‘Eat Pray Love’. The problem starts when you become the slaves of your emotions. when emotions rule over you, you close your eyes to reality, you live in your world, a world which your mind creates to justify your motive, to justify the emotions that you feel. Be your own ruler, do not let your emotions become heavy on you. “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions, I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them,” said Oscar Wilde! emotions are natural, you cannot get rid of them, you can only control them. The day you are left with no emotions is the day you die!

We as teenagers are at times incapable of controlling our emotions, if we have someone who can help us, who is there with us, then we can overcome this challenge. But there are teens who at times have no one to guide them through this tough time, and they tend to look for help from their friends who themselves are going through the same phase, their friends are also inexperienced. This leads to wrong advice and crappy teenage lives! in this busy competitive world, our elders should take out some time and talk to us about how we feel, what problems we are facing as they have gone through these same feelings some years back, they can give us the best advice! If we express our emotions then trust me, emotions wouldn’t pose any problem, because every unexpressed emotion has a future effect.

“Unexpressed emotions tend to stay in the body like small ticking time bombs, they are illnesses in incubation!“

–Marilyn Van Derbur