Love Isn’t Symbiotic!

I think about numerous things, well it is all I do all day long but the thing I think about the most is “love”! What a word it is! It is a beautiful feeling, well that is what I have heard and seen and that is what I intend to feel someday! Every song, every movie gives you this sumptuous picture about love, about happy endings. About that perfect person that you just stumble into someday in the mall, or on a trip, and boom your life changes, everything makes perfect sense, and life seems much happier.

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
– Robert A. Heinlein

To be candid these movies and songs have made me fall in love with this idea of love, because sadly I have not found that perfect person yet, well I have conceived that I have, but sadly she did not find me perfect! (haha) Even though I have not fallen in love, I still am familiar with love, or at least the idea of love.”

“Cause all of me loves all of you. Love your curves and all your edges, all your perfect imperfections.”
-“All of Me” — John Legend

In the true words of Daniel Sloss “Our generation is more in love with the idea of love rather than the person they are with!”. This statement has always affected me intensely and has made me think about love and the perception of love. It isn’t a beautiful emotion for many, for them, it’s a need, something which is too essential and hence they end up acting so desperate that it damages their self-worth and self-esteem.

Many psychologists and philosophers believe that people compose most of their relationships to permeate voids that they have created in the past. You can never love somebody until you love yourself, most relationships that last are just symbiotic; two people filling each other’s emotional voids, making the relationship sustainable.

“You can’t love other people until you love yourself.”
– Demi Lovato

So ask this to yourself; are you actually in love? Or are you just afraid of the pain, which you believe will engulf you if you let someone go? Be honest with yourself. We need to stop romanticizing the idea of romance. Symbiosis is an interesting scientific phenomenon until we collaborate it in our lives too!

If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.
– Erich Fromm